Nolan is 4!

Happy Birthday to Nolan!  Sweet Nolan boy is 4 years old.  Nolan is a kind boy who loves trains, cars, and doing his “schoolwork.”  He loves the cars and legos that the grandparents sent for special gifts.  

The Accident

I was just outside our gate getting some Christmas gifts out of our storage container when I heard Theron racing down our drive way urgently saying on the phone, “I don’t know where you are!  You have to tell me where you are!”

I was immediately concerned as I seldom here my husband raise his voice.  He then went on to say, “Richard, I need to talk to Will, can he talk?  Will where are you?  The airstrip? Okay.”

Theron quickly informed me that Will (our American teammate)  and Richard (one of our Uganda co-workers) were in an accident near the Mbarara airstrip and that he needed to go right now.  We knew was that Will and Richard were both able to talk and that Will was bleeding – nothing else.  Theron called Andrew (our other teammate) who lives two houses away to come pick him up and he then went to the clinic room to get some emergency medical supplies.

Theron gave me his phone which had the numbers for Missionary Aviation Fellowship (MAF) in case we needed to fly someone elsewhere.  A few moments later Andrew was here and they were off in a cloud of dust.

I went inside, gathered the kids, and we began to pray.

Theron and Andrew were at the accident in a few minutes.  When they arrived they found Richard’s car upside down off the road in a field.  Will was lying on the ground outside the car and Richard was holding a bloody cloth onto the side of Will’s face.

Theron and Andrew immediately began to assess the situation.  Richard had a lot of bangs and minor cuts but appeared to be okay.  Will was in a lot of pain and was bleeding in several locations and was complaining of his back hurting.  He was able to move his fingers and toes which was a good sign.  As Theron was caring for Will,  a truck of Ugandan policemen drove up.  One of the police approached Theron and Andrew and said, pointing to Will,  “There has been an accident we need to get this one to the hospital.”  Andrew said,  “No we need to keep him here so we can see if his back is hurt.”  The policeman replied “I am a policeman, we need to get these ones to a hospital.”  Andrew then replied “That one is a Doctor and he says we don’t want to move him yet.”  Andrew and his 6’2” frame won the argument and he and Theron continued to work to assess and stabilize Will.

As Theron and Andrew were taking care of Will, he asked them, “How are the kids?  Where are they?”  At this point none of us knew that their had been other people in the accident.

As it turns out, one of our friends, Savious, had sent her 3 kids in the car with Will and Richard as they were going to the village where Savious’ mother lived.  All of our hearts sank when we heard these kids had been in the car.  Savious lost her husband a few years ago when her youngest child was just 2 months old.

For several hours we didn’t know what condition her children were in.  All we knew was that a passing motorist saw the accident, picked up the kids and took them to the local hospital.  We pleaded with God for this widow to now be spared her three children.  We were also reminded back to how God had spared Savious’ own life and that of her son when she was in the hospital bleeding with undiagnosed placenta previa.  We pleaded for God to again spare lives.

At some point during this I was able to talk to Theron and he said he wanted to get Will to Kampala so that he could get x-rays and CT scans of his head, neck, back and shoulder.  Since the car ride to Kampala is at least four hours over some very bad, dangerous roads filled with construction and potholes, I  got on the phone with MAF to try to arrange for a plane to come get Will and Theron.  Understandably, MAF needed some substantial promise of payment before they would send the plane.  After, pledging my first-born as collateral, the plane was on its way.  The plane arrived ninety minutes later and Theron accompanied Will to Kampala.

Once there an ambulance met them at the airport to take them to the hospital.  The traffic is notoriously awful in Kampala.  The ambulance driver conquered Kampala traffic like the guys had never seen before.  In fact I’m half tempted to pay the $100 cost of the ambulance the next time we are stuck in Kampala traffic.

Once in Kampala, Theron and Will went back and forth between a few different hospitals and clinics to get all the scans and x-rays Will needed.  Andrew joined them later that night as he had left for Kampala by car once the plane left Mbarara.

We praise God that while Will certainly looked like he had just had a car land on his face he only sustained a broken scapula, some bruises, lacerations to his face and back and a dislocated shoulder.  Incidentally, as Will was traveling over the notoriously pothole-filled roads of Kampala, he hit a few bumps which fixed his dislocated shoulder.  Blessings come in expected ways.

After one night in the hospital and one night in a nice, airconditioned hotel in Kampala the guys were able to make the journey back to Mbarara very slowly by car.  We were so happy to have all of the guys back in Mbarara for Christmas Eve.

Of the nine people in the car, Will had the worst injuries.  We thank everyone for their prayers during this time and we are so grateful to God who spared our friends from this potentially serious accident.

Ladies Bible Study

In a previous post I wrote that a lot of the people we work with feel like they don’t have much that they can offer God or that God can’t use them for much.  Part of this thinking comes from a fatalistic world view in which one doesn’t believe that God created us in his image for a purpose.  Other times this thinking comes from an abusive past – often it is both.

 

As a result we find ourselves largely trying to encourage and empower the people we work with.  A lot of times this means encouraging others and holding ourselves back to allow others to rise up to positions of leadership and service.  As we are working with new believers it is a delicate balance between when to step in and lead and when to step out of the way and let others lead.

 

Last year I found myself struggling with this very thing as one of the churches we work with asked us to become more involved as they were going through some leadership challenges.  At this church the once active ladies ministry had ceased to exist.  I sat back for a while waiting to see if any of the ladies at church would take the lead and start some things back up again.  I waited and waited.  For an entire year -  I waited.  I really wanted to get a ladies bible class going but I also didn’t want to be charge of it (as I felt there were several Ugandans ladies at the church who were very able) and I didn’t want to start something if the other ladies were simply not interested in it.

 

Eventually,  I asked one of the ladies if she thought the women would be interested in starting a ladies bible study again. She enthusiastically said, “Yes! “. Then she got the ball rolling.  This lady then scheduled a ladies meeting to discuss what the other women wanted to do.  They said a weekly Bible study would be good.  A few said that not many women would come if it was just a time to study the bible.  They said that for women to come we would need to organize games and food like the Missionaries in the past had done – and all eyes turned on me.  I told them that I would be happy to organize games occasionally and they were welcome to come to my house for some special times of fellowship. However I simply couldn’t organize games and food and bible study weekly but I would be happy to attend their weekly bible study and take my turn leading it.

 

So we began meeting weekly.  It started with me, Aimee Martin and two other women.   Then Shawna arrived, Aimee went on furlough and I was out of commission for several months as we were in Kampala waiting for the birth of Elliott and then adjusting to life with a new baby.  At many points I was concerned if the Bible Study would continue.  However,  Shawna and the other ladies continued to meet weekly.

 

We threw in some fun things here and there, making pancakes at my house, visiting some other ladies, having lunch and painting nails at Shawna’s house.  These events did draw bigger crowds.  However, we continued to meet weekly without much fanfare to simply be together and study God’s word.  Now we are consistently having 6-10 ladies who come to fellowship and learn more about God.

Last week when we met before Christmas for our final study of the year and we thanked God that we have grown to a group of ten ladies who are committed to meeting together.

 

 

A Belated Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Things were a bit more hectic around here than usual around Christmas and New Year, so please accept our very Belated Christmas and New Year wishes from our family to yours!

Campbell is 7!

It’s hard to believe Campbell has turned 7!  Campbell is a very responsible, bright young girl who brings such joy to our family.  Campbell was very excited to get a Cowgirl hat from the local souvenir shop for her birthday.  She also encouraged her mother’s amateur cake decorating skills by excitedly exclaiming, “Mommy, that’s the prettiest birthday cake I’ve ever seen.”

 

An “interesting” medical case

Theron had an “interesting” medical case a few weeks back.  I use the word “interesting” but pretty gross is more accurate in my non-medical opinion.  One day Goretti, the wonderful lady who helps us around the house (more on her in another post to come), asked me if “Doctor” (as people often call Theron, since his name in almost impossible for a native Runyankole speaker to pronounce as they have no /th/ sound and there is no distinction between the /r/ and the /l/ that we are used to in English in Runyankole, we have gotten many letters addressed to Dr. Shalon or Sharon Huttone and some people are confused why Doctor and his wife have the same name as Theron and Sarah sound very similar to their ears when we say them with our American accents) was going to be around later.  I told her that he would be around after 5.  She then went on to tell me about her nephew’s son out in the village who had a “rotting head.”  She said that he had gone to a small clinic near his home and had been given some tablets and herbs but those hadn’t seemed to help.   I encouraged her to tell them to come to town and that Doctor would be happy to see them.  She called her nephew on her cell phone (ah the beauty of modern technology, cell phones and internet connection throughout Africa).

Later that day the Nephew and his son arrived.  He was a cute little guy wearing a stocking cap.  The nephew had helped to host us when we had visited Goretti’s village before so we were glad to get a chance to return the hospitality.  My kids did a great job of trying to include the boy in what they were doing and he really enjoyed swinging on our swings.  When it started to rain they came in and the kids watched a children’s movie.

Theron got held up by some other responsibilities and was late getting home.  When he got home he took the boys hat off to check out his “rotting head.”  I have never seen anything like it before.  His entire head where there would normally be hair was covered in oozy yellow or grey pus.  I am not one prone to exaggeration so when I say his head was covered in pus it literally was.  At this point Theron was tired and it was late, so we asked Goretti if the nephew and son could stay with her and come back in the morning when Theron would have more time to look at the fellow.  Goretti was happy to have them so they went on their way.

Early the next morning the nephew and son were back.  Theron donned some latex gloves, removed the boy’s hat and started scrubbing his head with a surgical scrub brush.  The boy was very stoic and brave and was a very good patient.  After the head scrubbing the boy was sent back to Goretti’s house with some strong antibiotics and vitamins.  Theron asked if they boy could stay in town for a few days and come back for us to check on how his head was before they spent money on transport to go back to their village.  We were happy when the boy came back a few days later and his head was remarkably better.  The father was very happy to see that his son’s head was no longer “rotting.”

I don’t have a picture to share with you.  It seemed a bit insensitive to say  ”hey little fella can I take a picture of your “rotting” head to put on my blog for all my friends and supporters to see” but he is a cute one even when his head was covered in pus.

God is doing Good things!

A friend of ours defines poverty as believing that one has nothing to give.  It’s a concise and useful definition.  And by  this definition, we know many here living in poverty.  For a long time many Ugandans have been told that they are poor and that they have nothing to offer God and each other.  Satan has even deceived many into believing that they are cursed and that God simply could not use them to work for his glory here on earth.  Unfortunately, many well-intentioned visitors and missionaries and aid groups have perpetuated this idea by coming in and showing pity on people to the point that the people begin to pity themselves and believe they can’t do anything without outside help.

For example a few weeks back Theron was preaching on the value of community and helping one’s neighbor.  After the sermon one of our church members approached him and asked “But how can we help each other when we are so poor?”  She was believing the lie that she has nothing to give.

We are very cautious of being guilty of perpetuating this same cycle of pity, relief and ultimately dependency on money from visitors and missionaries.  We don’t want to continue to reinforce the wrong belief that God can’t use Ugandans or the less-educated or the not affluent.  We try to encourage people to recognize they are made in God’s image, He has given them many blessings and all people have something to offer to the LORD and their community.

We praise God because he is moving in the hearts of his people.  People are beginning to believe they are created in His image.  People are believing that God’s commands to give and be generous apply to all his people, not just the rich ones as does his promise to bless the generous.  People are beginning to see that God has given them so many resources to use for his Glory.

Some encouraging examples:

Our church has started a street children’s ministry.  Ugandan church members are working hard to lead this ministry and spending time and resources to help these vulnerable kids.  A few years ago they wouldn’t have believed they could do this on their own with out funding from the States or a full-time missionary to do it.  Of their own volition, the church members are organizing a Christmas party for these kids who truly are “the least of these.”

A young woman of incredible faith who has faced more challenges in life than most people ever will is reaching out to her neighbors.  She has brought one of her Muslim neighbors into a relationship with Christ and the neighbor’s formerly abusive husband attended church with her for the first time.   Her brother, who most would consider stuck in poverty, recently brought a goat to church as a tithe.  A goat is a large gift and the equivalent to a months salary for many families here.

We are thankful that God is working in the hearts of His people here to bring them into dependence on Him and allowing them to develop an awareness of what they already have and they indeed do have something to give.

Now, if we can just stay out of the way.

 

 

 

 

Rugby

To continue the fun over the holiday weekend Theron participated in a Ex-Pats (a term used for foreigners living overseas) vs. Ntare School students Rugby match.  Everyone did really well (including Theron and the other Americans who had never actually played Rugby before.)  With youth, experience and knowledge of the game on their side, the Ntare School students defeated the Ex-Pats.  Fortunately no one lost any teeth and fun was had by all.  The kids had fun watching Daddy tackle people and be pulled to the ground by others.  I’m thinking of starting a powder puff, no tackling, Mbarara Women’s Rugby league once I can figure out the rules.

T-day

We had lots of fun this year celebrating my favorite holiday of all!  Nothing beats being with family for Thanksgiving, but since we weren’t able to be with dear family, we made the best of it and had some fun.  First our team had a deluxe Thanksgiving celebration with all the fixings.  The Tuckers even killed and cooked a Turkey for us.  It was much better than a Butterball in my opinion.  Amazingly we are able to get the ingredients to make almost all of the traditional Thanksgiving foods.  The only thing we lacked was a pecan pie and cranberry sauce.  Then on Friday we enjoyed the annual International Thanksgiving feast hosted by our missionary friends the Skinners.  The countries represented were the US, Uganda, Rwanda, The Netherlands, India, Australia, and the UK.  Fun times.  Amusing to see our kids’ plates full of barbeque pork, mashed potatoes, chapatis, ground nut sauce and fried grasshoppers.  The day was topped off with the annual posho (corn meal) sack races and snow ball fight (cassava flour in panty hose).  Quite like the original Thanksgiving where the foreigners feasted with the local people in celebration and thanksgiving.

Joseph’s Baby

We prayed for a baby to come into Joseph’s family and shortly after this new life began to be knit together in Diana’s womb.  In a culture that doesn’t talk about pregnancy for fear that people can curse your baby, Joseph publicly proclaimed God’s goodness in answering his family’s prayers and publicly announced that he and his wife were expecting.  Months passed and Diana “produced” a baby boy in a small health clinic near their village.  Things seemed to be going well.  However, when the baby was about a week old (and Theron was out of the country) I got a call from Joseph that his baby was in the hospital with pneumonia and a congenital heart defect.  I was able to visit them at the hospital shortly afterwards.  Typically here, patients are told practically nothing from Medical personnel.  So when I got to the hospital there were no nurses or doctors around to talk.  I was curious how the diagnosis of congenital heart defect was made and what they thought the best course of treatment would be for the baby.  I looked at the chart but wasn’t able to decipher much (Joseph had given me the chart to look at as there are no strict confidentiality laws here). When a man on the medical staff came by I politely asked if he could give me some information on my friend’s baby as I wanted to help this friend get the best care for his baby possible.  The man began to berate me for asking questions about the baby.  He demanded to know if I was a medical person and if not why was I asking medical questions.  I’ve been here long enough to know how to deal with this.  So I put on my smile and said “Forgive me sir, I am so sorry, but I want to help my friend with his baby and you are the expert, you are the one who knows the answers so I thought I would ask you.  Thank you so much for your work here and for helping my friend.”  Call in flattery, call it whatever, it can get the job done.  The man, who I later found out was head of nursing, then explained that the diagnosis of congenital heart defect had been made by a resident making rounds and that the attending had not yet seen the baby to confirm the diagnosis.  Well to make a long story short, Joseph’s baby stayed in the hospital on oxygen for several days and then went home after a week stay.  It appears that the baby does not have a heart problem and we thank God that the baby has not been sick since leaving the hospital.